Unlike many video games, life doesn’t have a character selection screen where you pick your name, gender, race, class, or backstory.
The good news is other people don’t need you to be Raven, the changeling high elf from the slave pits of Mordor, on a quest to avenge the honor of your people. People really just need you to not be annoying.
What's in it for you? Being real will cure your social anxiety.